The Selfless Love that Binds

When we met and fell in love,
We married such very different points of view,
And we promised from the very start
Because we’d agreed to be a Family.

We’ve been growing our Family,
And it’s prospered from our special give and take
Till we reached the point where each of us wants his way;
Can love that like sustain a Family?

What will happen to the Family
As it suffers anguish from our tug of wills?
Is there not some way we can show them yet
That selfless love will bind a Family?

Is there not some way we can show them yet
The Selfless Love that will bind this Family?

About This Song:
“The Selfless Love that Binds” is a song I didn’t want to write. But I felt compelled to.

The last quarter of the twentieth century was a turbulent time among Southern Baptists. Conservatives believed that the liberals had gone too far, and they set out to restore the denomination to a more conservative path. Unfortunately, their methods were often less than ethical and loving, and the denomination appeared to be headed for a split.

As it turned out, many of the liberal churches formed the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship without necessarily leaving the Southern Baptist Convention totally–a number of churches align themselves with both groups–while the conservatives took over the leadership of the Southern Baptist Convention and its schools and agencies.

The political shenanigans were especially upsetting to those of us who have deep Southern Baptist roots.

I wrote this song as an appeal to both sides to be united in love, using marriage and family as a symbol of the relationship of Baptists having variant ideologies.

Conservatism and liberalism aren’t new. So I pointed out that the two sides came from “very different points of view” and “compromised from the very start.”

Then I noted that “our special give and take” had resulted in growth and prosperity within the denomination.

Finally, I emphasized the damage the “tug of wills” does to the “Family.”

But I couldn’t leave this song on a negative note. So I appealed to liberals and conservatives alike to do the Christlike thing: to let God’s perfect, selfless love bind them together once again.

I don’t hear much about those problems anymore, although they still exist. My wife and I belong to a very conservative church. So conservative that I feel slightly uncomfortable at times.

But I don’t mind compromising. At least to the extent that I’m able to accept the fact that I can’t claim to be the ultimate source of truth.

What about you? Have you seen the damage that can be done when people having polar-opposite viewpoints can’t or won’t compromise? Perhaps the political situation in the United States is a good example. If you have thoughts on this subject, please leave a comment.


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I’ll be back again next Wednesday.

Best regards,



About Roger E. Bruner

Seventy-five-year-old Roger E. Bruner is the author and publisher of twenty Christian novels and the writer of more than two hundred Christian songs and choruses, a handful of musical dramas, and a number of shorter works. He sings, plays guitar and bass, and records his original songs in his home studio. He is active in his church's nursing home ministry He also plays bass guitar on the church raise team. Married for seventeen years to Kathleen, he has one grown daughter. Kathleen has two. Roger enjoys reading, moderate exercise, photography and book cover design (he's done all of his own except for Rosa No-Name), playing Snood, making walking sticks, and complaining about the state of the nation while continuing to pray for it.
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